"When it comes to suffering, I not only anticipate the emotional state I will occupy, but I also assume that I will be alone in my distressing affect and will be powerless to change it. Understanding this mindset is crucial, because it reveals the degree to which, in our insecure attachment styles, we do not anticipate that anyone will be coming for us, to join us and coregulate us by enabling us to be seen, soothed, safe, and secure as we long for." ~Curt Thompson, "The Deepest Place"
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| A high school orchestra party at my house |
This year we celebrate 40 years of friendship, and we wanted to do something extra and special to commemorate God's faithfulness in building such a beautiful foundation for our marriage. Recently, we have been exploring attachment styles, and I am exceedingly grateful that we are learning to help each other be seen, soothed, safe, and secure (I first learned about these from the amazing Dan Siegel).
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| College choir tour in Europe |
My creative hubby suggested forty days of celebrating sprinkled throughout the year to represent the forty years of friendship. We feel strongly that playing together keeps our relationship healthy and vibrant. Each of us has been doing some research for a variety of activities that cover different costs and distances and include history, food, art, and nature. One of my favorite resources so far is the Kat Robinson's series of books that combine history and food in Arkansas. Sometimes we'll even include our kids in the fun! Stay tuned, folks.
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